An apology always beats justice

Recently, my wife asked me to read “The Five Languages of Apology” chapter at a time so that we can make our relationship stronger. The first chapter talked about why making amends is so essential. The reason that spoke most to me is that when our partner or boss doesn’t apologize, we will try to […]

Talk about effort effectively 

Last week I went to a mastermind where, among many things, the speaker mentioned how entrepreneurs tend to go on about how much effort they put into a product instead of what the client wants. The experience made me reflect on how to talk about effort effectively? I heard a potent analogy of buying a […]

Future robbing our present

I have a hard time accepting how quickly Christmas spirit is taking over in early November. I mean, we are still a couple of weeks away from Thanksgiving, but I see the lights, trees, and one radio station already plays nothing but carols. I can’t help but wonder, where is this holiday creep coming from? […]

The fewer the likes the greater share of honor

I don’t remember much in terms of what I learned in my high school classes. Good education, no doubt, but most of it was a foundation that I expanded in college. The ideas that I remember to this day came from my English classes, which oddly enough was a subject I liked least at the […]

Excellence regardless of the score

I’m not a sports fan in general, but even I can’t help but get sucked into how my local team, Astros, is doing in the world series. I watched a bit of the first two games, and I concluded that Nationals, the opposing team, was superior.  But guess what, Astros turned around and won the […]

Fail to get ideas

We give up when we run out of ideas. Fairly logical, because our mind tells us that we put up a good fight, so it’s time to go back to something safe. Therefore, when we are failing to get ideas, it’s time to fail to get ideas! The simplest way to explain it is through […]

Leadership is isolation

Leadership is a word used so often that sometimes I begin to wonder what does it even mean. Not to add to the confusion, but perhaps to provide a fresh light, I’d like to propose that leadership is isolation. Leadership is like forging a new path, and any time we create something new, we have […]

Relationship plans are worthless, but planning is everything

I recently came across a quote by Dwight Eisenhower that says, “Plans are worthless, but planning is everything.” It’s funny how I spent ten years in the army, even more than that outside of the service, and I finally hear it now. Sound advice from an impressive general and a president, but I’d like to […]

Eliminate conflict through stories

I am finishing a book, my last Army boss gave me over a decade ago called “Leadership Lessons from General Ulysses S. Grant.” Mostly it’s a collection of excerpts from Grant’s journals picked out as a series of leadership vignettes. In one of them, Grant describes Lincoln’s ability to tell stories as far more effective […]

Don’t outsource connecting to technology

I came across a story about a person noticing how guests would tell his Alexa to keep changing music. In the days of manual players if somebody would want to change music, as a host, he would always be asked first, but now with voice commands curtsies seem to have gone out the window. To […]