How to judge others as you would like to be judged yourself

I am the kind of person that follows what people do and not what they say.

This has served me well, until I found a blind spot … myself🤣

See, in my perfect world I want people to look at my actions and so it becomes a bit frustrating to me when I have to explain myself. Having said that, I view it as a great empathy exercise to see which actions or words communicate best what I am about. Not so much an issue anymore … more of an opportunity area…

Enter judgment of other people. More specifically, how sure am I that I am not blowing somebody’s actions out of proportion? In other words, just as I don’t like it when people misunderstand my actions, how sure am I that I don’t return the favor to others?

I’m a firm believer that relationships are best mirrors of ourselves; none more so than romantic ones. Even though I’m getting close to 40s and this is my second marriage, I am quickly learning … that I still have much to learn 🤦‍♂️

Next time I’m doubting somebody based on their actions, I will ask myself am I upset, because trust has been TRULY breached or because I tell myself a story that I am not good enough?

After all, it’s just so much easier to point a finger rather than admit that finger pointing is typically done by an insecure person?

How do you like to be judged? How do you judge others?


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