One of the many benefits of yoga is having a diversity of teachers who every now and then say something that I write down until such time that I am ready to understand better what it means to me.
In this case, the particular saying was … and it’s not exact words … the problem with people oftentimes is that we listen to ourselves, instead of talking to ourselves.
Much can be written here on affirmations, self-compassion, gratitude, etc.
I think we all understand it at an intellectual level. Where the problem comes into play is action.
See, I’ve come a long way and yet still at times, I find myself a slave to beat up thoughts.
The recovering perfectionist part of me would say, what’s wrong? Why haven’t you transformed negative thoughts entirely yet? What’s missing?
Enter my fiancé. Recently I started doing something that is very hard for people in general, but men particularly so, because at first glance it appears to be showing weakness. I began to share some of my struggles, whether it be with work, faith, future, our future, whatever.
Even though it’s a bit uncomfortable at first, the very act of getting my mind’s black holes out into the light of our bond seems to melt them and oh by the way it’s not like the problem gets necessarily solved every time.
So perhaps this is precisely why we can never eradicate doubt. It’s because when put out in the open, fears essentially become a connection fertilizer.
Come to think of it, thank you for not moving out and more than paying your rent by allowing me to become that much more connected.
What are your beat up thoughts? How can you leverage them to build stronger relationships?
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