Expectations are tough. While they do serve the purpose of giving us a target, more often than not, they get overused by forcing us to conform to something that doesn’t resonate with our true selves.
For instance, I expected to be perfect in all that I do. At first glance, this might seem like a reasonable expectation. If you shoot for the moon, even if you’ll miss, at least you’ll land among the stars, right?
In my case, not so much. The perfection expectation prevented me from getting on the starship in the first place. Everything had to be impeccable to leave the comfort planet.
So how would things play out differently for me had I traded expectation for appreciation?
For starters, a lot of pressure would disappear. If I am truly grateful, then I have nothing to lose. If anything, I can only gain.
Am I there yet? No. But I’ve tasted the potential. For the past year or so, as soon as I wake up, I think of three things that I am grateful for. Typically what happened the previous day, but not necessarily. It could be as simple as appreciating my comfortable bed.
Appreciation primes me for spotting beauty throughout the day for the following morning’s review, and it’s so much more rewarding than letting my brain get sucked right back into identifying dangers.
What would happen if you traded expectations for appreciation? What would it look like?
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