How seeing enemies on the outside points to the enemy on the inside

As I watch the news, I can’t help but notice how the opposite political party is always the enemy.  Isn’t it similar in our relationships? When something doesn’t go our way, don’t we tend to point the finger at another person? Why is that?  Finger-pointing shifts responsibility. When we pass the blame, we get off […]

Relationship investments that don’t scale

I’m currently taking the Start-Up school course. It’s not a huge time commitment, because it’s efficient. The instructors are successful founders who teach the essentials without any fluff.  One particular nugget that intrigued me during this course so far is doing things that don’t scale. For example, in the early days, the Airbnb team would […]

Training the mind to follow the heart

Great leaders see the future and then make a plan to take advantage of the incoming change. For example, Ford successfully implemented assembly lines and Apple tablets. Behind these achievements were leaders who didn’t waiver, took the insults, and allowed their results to speak for themselves. Ironically enough, I remember reading an article mocking the […]

Open up your circle

We are all seeing way too much division these days. Take something as simple as news. I can’t just read what happened. First, I have to pick whether I want to get news from a liberal or conservative lens, for example, CNN or Fox News, and then I get corresponding facts. The vantage points rarely overlap […]

How to measure happiness

As my birthday approached this year, I had a conversation with my wife, which made me realize that I used to dread my birthdays. Why? I felt the pressure to show myself that with each increasing year on this planet, I had an increase in status to prove I’m on the right track. So, for […]

I’m not competing, I’m filling the gap

Most of us learn to compete at a very young age. Sports, school, clubs, to name a few. While some healthy competition is a great teacher, too much makes us go into the rivalry mode by default. I’ve been guilty. For example, sometimes I would say things not to advance the conversation but to show […]

How to experience the exceptional

We have a strong tendency to go along with the status quo or default option. In fact, in the book I’m reading, “Nudge” writes about how whatever the default choices are, many people stick with them. How can we harness this power for good? Interestingly enough, what comes to my mind is Toastmasters. For those […]

Target for compounding growth

Our minds need a target. For when we don’t have a target, we aim mindlessly. Quite literally. Let me give you an example. An airport had a problem with men peeing too much on the floor and not enough into a urinal. The authorities made a correct assumption that the mess wasn’t intentional and a […]

Reading the heart through the body

This week I dropped out of the Founder’s Institue program, and I wanted to take a bit of time to digest the lessons learned. First of all, the program was great, but it was also very fast-paced. I have a good idea, but my heart wasn’t ready to go into execution mode. At least not […]

Following your heart compass

The other day I was scrolling through LinkedIn, and I came across an HBR article that talked about how people who accomplished the extraordinary did it by seeing opportunities everyone else misses regularly. A good example is a guy who invented the Velcro. Instead of just shaking off the burrs that stuck to his clothing, he […]