Leadership is isolation

Leadership is a word used so often that sometimes I begin to wonder what does it even mean. Not to add to the confusion, but perhaps to provide a fresh light, I’d like to propose that leadership is isolation. Leadership is like forging a new path, and any time we create something new, we have […]

Relationship plans are worthless, but planning is everything

I recently came across a quote by Dwight Eisenhower that says, “Plans are worthless, but planning is everything.” It’s funny how I spent ten years in the army, even more than that outside of the service, and I finally hear it now. Sound advice from an impressive general and a president, but I’d like to […]

Eliminate conflict through stories

I am finishing a book, my last Army boss gave me over a decade ago called “Leadership Lessons from General Ulysses S. Grant.” Mostly it’s a collection of excerpts from Grant’s journals picked out as a series of leadership vignettes. In one of them, Grant describes Lincoln’s ability to tell stories as far more effective […]

Don’t outsource connecting to technology

I came across a story about a person noticing how guests would tell his Alexa to keep changing music. In the days of manual players if somebody would want to change music, as a host, he would always be asked first, but now with voice commands curtsies seem to have gone out the window. To […]

Stop using labels and start taking action

I remember a commentator being upset about the media using cliches such as “kicking the can down the road” when reporting on the national debt. In his mind, labels like this prevented us from discussing the problem and as such lessened the likelihood of taking action.  Ironically, enough, this is the first time I recall […]

How seeing enemies on the outside points to the enemy on the inside

As I watch the news, I can’t help but notice how the opposite political party is always the enemy.  Isn’t it similar in our relationships? When something doesn’t go our way, don’t we tend to point the finger at another person? Why is that?  Finger-pointing shifts responsibility. When we pass the blame, we get off […]

Relationship investments that don’t scale

I’m currently taking the Start-Up school course. It’s not a huge time commitment, because it’s efficient. The instructors are successful founders who teach the essentials without any fluff.  One particular nugget that intrigued me during this course so far is doing things that don’t scale. For example, in the early days, the Airbnb team would […]

Ministry of Presence (Ep #64)

Henry shares how the ministry of presence helped him to make sense of his 4-year-old son’s death. Jake died in his arms after a 2-year fight with bone cancer. Henry doesn’t even remember the first year after his son’s passing. Please listen in to the small miracles that helped him get over the hump. More […]

Training the mind to follow the heart

Great leaders see the future and then make a plan to take advantage of the incoming change. For example, Ford successfully implemented assembly lines and Apple tablets. Behind these achievements were leaders who didn’t waiver, took the insults, and allowed their results to speak for themselves. Ironically enough, I remember reading an article mocking the […]

Open up your circle

We are all seeing way too much division these days. Take something as simple as news. I can’t just read what happened. First, I have to pick whether I want to get news from a liberal or conservative lens, for example, CNN or Fox News, and then I get corresponding facts. The vantage points rarely overlap […]