Last Thursday, I went to a VEL keynote where I heard two great entrepreneurs talk about their journey. As usual a ton of great nuggets, but the one I felt I wanted to explore further came from Debra Myers who said: Success is failure refocused.
This phrase demonstrates the heart and mind synergies exceptionally well. Failure happens for two reasons. You either are doing something you’re not supposed to (i.e., it’s not your calling in life) or God is testing your resolve (i.e., you need to develop your skills in order to make His dream a reality).
When you fail to do something you’re not supposed to it merely means that it doesn’t align with your heart, and so it’s a perfect opportunity to refocus your efforts onto something different. For example, I was never really good at Exxon in selling my ideas to management. I didn’t do anything wrong, per se. My heart wasn’t into it.
When God is testing your resolve, it’s a two-part blessing. First, in failure, you confirm to your logical mind that what you’re doing is your calling. Otherwise, you would have quit by now. Second, failure helps you try something different to help you get better in bringing the dream that God placed in your heart to reality. For example, now I don’t “sell” my ideas. I express them, which gives me the freedom to continually look for the best ways to connect with people rather than manipulate them to get what I want … like I tried with Exxon management.
That’s a success. Leading from the heart and using the mind to find the right environment rather than letting the environment …. Stuff down the heart.
How do you view failure? How can you refocus to lead more from the heart?
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