During Thanksgiving, my siblings were in town, and so we did what just about everyone does with outside visitors in Houston, we went to NASA! There, I stumbled on the following quote: “Discovery consists of seeing what everybody has seen and thinking what nobody has thought” by Albert Von Szent-Gyorgy.
So true, I thought, but then my very next thought was: how do you do it?
In my case, and I’d love to hear your thoughts on this is to alter the mindset. In short, to see what nobody else has thought, one has to separate themselves from the crowd and see with their inner child eyes.
How do you do that?
I do that by making my decisions based on what brings more love into my life, while at the same time being mindful of what blocks it.
As always, it starts with the smallest of things.
The first example that comes to my mind is the decision to invite my siblings in the first place. My old self rationalized: I have a lot going on in my life, as an introvert I need more me time, or what exactly am I going to show them in Houston that they haven’t seen before. All perfectly reasonable answers, as they were for many years, except when you view it from a perspective of the question: is inviting my siblings over for Thanksgiving going to bring more love in my life? The answer before their trip was yes … and in hindsight … the answer is more like … Duh .. Of course!
How about love blocks?
This happened yesterday on the way back from work. I was trying to make the green light, and I had this one vehicle trying to cut across the lanes from my right side to make the left side exit on the opposite side. The driver had other, and more importantly, safer options. But it didn’t matter. I wasn’t even thinking about that. In the process of rushing to make the green light, I missed the opportunity to empathize and block the vehicles behind me so that the guy can pass through smoothly. After all, he was at a point of no return. The guy still made it no problem, and I got a lesson in being more intentional … not letting the daily grind to put on blinders on my connection vision.
So how about you? What is your plan to train yourself to see what nobody else has seen?
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