One of the many things I love about America is that we have a holiday solely dedicated to thanking for our countless blessings. In fact, it’s hard to keep track of them all, and so one blessing I used to consistently overlook is myself. I hope that it doesn’t come across as narcissistic, but let’s take at least a bit of time to cultivate the most important earthly relationship off all … that one with ourselves.
See, if we don’t cherish ourselves, we will continue to attract the very situations that confirm our hunch. After all, isn’t it so human to be wanting to be always right?
Though it might not always come out exactly as intended, deep inside we all know that the best way to motivate someone is to be positive. So how come when it comes to ourselves it seems to be just the opposite? Can anyone relate to the following saying I heard recently … if we talked to others the way we talk to ourselves, we’d all be in jail!
What can be done about it? I think in a way that is an individual answer, but I’ll share what’s been working surprisingly well for me … as silly as it may sound…
Couple of months ago I saw this cute video (click here for the link) of a father getting her daughter’s hair ready. Such a great video on so many levels! What really stood out for me though, is when the daughter said “You’re getting it through! You’re almost done! You’re doing a good job!” These days, every time I’m facing doubt or I’m disappointed with myself I try to picture that scene and tell myself “You’re getting it through! You’re almost done! You’re doing a good job!” and even as I’m writing this phrase sequence for the second time, it never fails to bring a smile to my face. After all, can anyone respond with indifference to a child’s untainted view of the world? Right? Then how about our inner child that is still a part of us … and still dreaming? I mean what would happen if we quit learning how to walk after the first 1,000 times we fell as kids?
So take a pause and think about the relationship with yourself? Is there an opportunity to improve the language?